OT: The end is near (for my daugther )

A Briefest Dance

Passing: as a sparrow by the window –

Once I heard a music, sweet,

was moved and throbbed inside.

That melody has missed a beat;

it’s gone, that symphony has died.

But since I’ve found a mystery

somehow given me by Chance

in lines that now begin to be

alive, and so, here I let them dance.

Long gone charms seem now regained

while youth’s pulses rise and roar.

So brimmed with them come back again –

now we can float across the floor.

Come with me – don’t think too much –

join hands, please take your vital place,

that we may feel the lambent touch

and lifting steps of grace.

…sadly very sadly

Im here with tears in my eyes

Im a bit melancholic

I have fresh memories…

Im not strong for these situations

hope you and your family will be strong

best wishes

I feel a bit silly having posted this on swaylocks. I really don’t know you all that well. The truth is I love my daughter so much I want to show her to the whole wide world. Her way too short life has been and always will be a tremendous blessing in our lives. All of those who have children know what I’m talking about.

Thanks all for the warm thoughts.

Haavard,

Don’t feel silly. You may have been posting for you, but maybe you didn’t realize you were also posted it for us. Many of us have been touched by your story. I emailed a copy of your post on this thread to many people I know. They’ve been touched also. I told them I was not doing it to bring them down, but to inspire them to appreciate their loved ones. It’s easy to get busy with life and forget to appreciate the people closest to us. For some, you’ve caused us stop and take account of ourselves.

As privateer put it, it’s like a ripple effect. You pain is inspiring the opposite effect in many lives. I guess it’s small consillation, but at least it’s something.

Beautiful Ida is making life better for many and you’ve made that happen by telling us about it. So, don’t feel silly.

I’ve tried 6 different times to write something meaningfull and failed.With a heavy heart and alot of tears

I want to send my hope and comfort to you and your family.

                                                                                       Jeff

Sometimes the grace with which someone passes, can be their greatest gift to us…

We can only accept, not change…

Be strong…

Paul

Yes Haarvard. All of us with kids can empathize. It is our biggest fear. I am so sorry your beautiful little girl is leaving you and your family. I don’t have the words to express my feelings and the depth of my regrets for your loss. Mike

so sorry to hear of this–

but she has blessed your life–

and will follow you always–

the good times-

though far too short–

will be with you forever–

mine are always with me–

i am praying for you and your wife

So very sorry to hear that. My heart hurts for you. I don’t know if I could bear that. I think tonight I will give my own daughter an extra hug and tell her “I love you” one extra time and hopefully send some love Ida’s way too.

Jeff

so sorry and sad for you haavard.

I pray that somehow through all the pain and sorrow god will be very close to you , comforting and encouraging you .

my thoughts and prayers to you

with love and best wishes

 ben

Thanks for sharing Haavard… and reminding me of what is really important in life. As a father of two daughters I struggle to comprehend your loss.

My prayers are with you. Please give Ida a big ALOHA and hug from me.

Haavard

First off lots of love and good Karma from the Swift family

I think you have made us all realise that no matter what the surf industry is doing to Bert or whether you laps didn’t come out well. It is nothing compared to what you might be going through.

When I got home last night i gave my daughter the biggest hug.

You have reminded us that the ones you love come first everything else is irrelevant.

My next board will be dedicated to your daughter

Thanks for sharing and keep strong

they say when a person pass on, they leave their legacy . . . built upon memories and moments shared. When gone they still share that legacy through the ones they knew . . . they would want you to remember to keep going on, to stand where it was necessary, to continue to love. To live as they have . . .

I can only pray . . . remember to always have hope. God holds our existence apart from nothing. So he has created, and the soul is immortal and eternal . . . Even though she passes, she still exists.

When my older daughter was 6 she suffered a ruptured appendix. The doctors misdiagonsed her and sent her home. That night she was practically lifeless, so I rushed her back to the hospital. It was touch and go for about a week, but they managed to take care of things. Then we had several months of worrying whether they actually did get all the infection out. Today she is 16 going on 17 and a 4.0 student.

I feel for you man. I was never quite as sad as then. Cried so much. Till today there are songs I hear that bring tears to my eyes because I remember them playing when she was in the hospital.

It’s almost a year now since my cousin and father passed away. Although I miss them so much, it’s getting better. I talk to them in my prayers or whenever I feel the need. Somehow I know they can hear me, and I know they watch over me.

May God bless you Haarvard with the strength to get past this. May he make you and your family stronger, and find a way to explain why he took your daughter at such a young age.

My Aloha to you, Harry

I’m certainly feeling for you Haavard. I can’t imagine anything more painful than the loss of a child. My prayers are with you.

I’ve lost quite a few loved ones over the last year… another friend of mine passed away three days ago. I believe the spirits of our loved ones live on in our memories. I’ve spent a lot of time remembering lately.

You’re not alone

Together we stand

I’ll be by your side

You know I’ll take your hand

When it gets cold

And it feels like the end

There’s no place to go

You know I won’t give in

no I won’t give in

Keep holdin’ on

Cause you know we’ll make it through

We’ll make it through

Just, stay strong

Cause you know I’m here for you

I’m here for you

There’s nothing you can say

Nothing you can do

there’s no other way when it comes to the truth

So, keep holding on

Cause you know we’ll make it through

We’ll make it through

So far away

I wish you were here

Before it’s too late

This could all disappear

Before the doors close

And it comes to an end

With you by my side

I will fight and defend ah ah

I’ll fight and defend, yeah, yeah

Keep holdin’ on

Cause you know we’ll make it through

We’ll make it through

Just, stay strong

Cause you know I’m here for you

I’m here for you

There’s nothing you can say

nothing you can say

Nothing you can do

Hear me when I say

When I say I believe

Nothing’s gonna change

Nothing’s gonna change destiny

Whatever’s meant to be

Will work out perfectly

Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah…

Avril Lavigne

Haavard,

thank you. your heart felt words helped me realize(again…) how important our kids are…i could never imagine your pain.

daily i hug my two, and sometimes i think how it’d be without them, and i am devastated, if for one moment.

you are living the worst scenerio for a parent. please if there is ANYTHING we can do, TELL US!!

Sway is a brotherhood of the best sort, family and friends building a community…and such closeness will bring dispair,

we all have to deal with it, unfortunately you are now…feel so much sadness for your family.

All we can offer is our heartfelt condolences, and prayers of all faiths sent to you and your family…

and DAMN that picture, made me cry…

thinking of all of you, praying for miracle…

blind.

Haarvard,

You have but one family - those that live under your roof and those of us here on the web.

You are blessed to have such a large and caring group of ‘family’

We are supposed to share our good days and bad ones - Those of us on this site may not ‘know’ each other but do share a passion. It is more than I can say about people I ‘know’ just because I ‘see’ them.

Not much into religion but I do believe in God and have ‘seen’ faith move mountains.

All my love and prayers goes to you and yours.

I also remember when you first posted about this. I’m hoping you are filling your heart with her presence.

Life is precious. Love is the glue that binds good memories to your heart. God bless you and your family.

Haavard

         I shared your post with the rest of my family.  Our prayers go out to your family.  



           If you are up to it share some of your memories of Ida with us.  I would love to hear some. 



           The power of prayer is real. God bless you and your family 

                                                                                                   Mike