one day it will be 6 foot, hot and glassy. and you and she will be in the mall at the doll show!
Funny thing… my exwife was a doll collector and owned a damned toy store. Which goes a long way towards why she’s an exwife…or else I’d be spending my weekends around now on wrapping detail.
I’ll be smart… in my next life…
doc…
yeah i dont know what to do. it doesnt seem like i can make her happy anymore which really sucks becasue i love her very much. i guess if things get real bad i might go on an extended surf trip for a while.
i know i am not perfect, but no one is. it seems like her newest hobby has turned into how miserable can she make our lifes.
and its not like i dont take her out, and try to buy my way to shaping.
i feel afraid to do or say anything in my own house.
yeah i dont know what to do. it doesnt seem like i can make her happy anymore which really sucks becasue i love her very much. i guess if things get real bad i might go on an extended surf trip for a while.
i know i am not perfect, but no one is. it seems like her newest hobby has turned into how miserable can she make our lifes.
and its not like i dont take her out, and try to buy my way to shaping.
i feel afraid to do or say anything in my own house.
Sounds to me like we are just touching the surface of your relationship troubles man. You might want to consider cutting your losses while you can. -Carl
Been there, done that, and the t-shirt sucked too.
Man, I think it’s sit-down time, square things away one way or the other. And then, before this sort of thing becomes a regular feature, build some serious feedback into the relationship ( a word in this context I truly hate). Or else it’s decision time: is it stay or is it time to go. Which will truly suck too. You can only give away so much before you cease to be you and become an explosion waiting to happen. Which I was, not long ago, and why I’m not in that scene any more.
Gawd, talk about off-topic, but the thing about the surfing way of life is you do run into these relationship trainwrecks. Like I say…the t-shirt isn’t very good either. But…you give and give and ya got none left for yourself, has to be a balance in there somewhere, or find another where maybe you get one.
All I can say is good luck, bro.
doc…
[=1][ 3]“at least i aint screwin other girls behind your back like half the husbands i know”
Hey you stole my line! hehe! Sounds like we got into relationships at about the same time too (19 years in my case 
I find that one does actually buy you some time… If you can drive it home at the right time, that is.
-doug
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well i did something i have needed to do for sometime i put my foot down and really tolde her how i felt. and that i was really getting tired of being direspected and her not treating me right.
well it seemed to work this time, and i feel a lot better now.
and the good news is templating has started on my newest project.
pictures should be coming soon
Nice work… but tread carefully… you will be walking on a fine line for a while. Do something nice for her now (go out to dinner, fix something in the house) to show that you appreciated her giving you your shaping. this way, you can get her to allow you to spend more time in the garage and she will be grateful… or atleast it worked for me…lol
also, this will allow you to get away w/ doing more things you want.
It’s about freaking time.
That beer will go off if you put food with it in the same fridge, don’t you know anything???
My useless advise on this subject, having been married 3 times, is go ahead and do what you want. Most ladies only stay angry, mute and distant for about 3-4 days. That will give you enough time to shape and glass the board. If they love you enough, the smile on your face when you finally emerge will clear up those grumps really quickly. Take advantage of this, act like an excited kid, tell her that you’ve really wanted to do this…etc…then make mad passionate love to her…
Sorry, I was just dreaming…
I second that motion!
At least, if you want to go on shaping AND keep your woman.
-doug
Turbo,
Haven’t read all these replies, but suffice to say that a relationship should be a partnership where each not only accepts the other, but encourages and nurtures the other in ALL they do. OR, it’s not a partnership and why the heck waste the time. Life is way too short. My past failures have given me wisdom. My wife is my best buddy (she even loves being in my shop) and it gets no better than that. Make a choice! Because afterall, you have to enjoy the ride!
Richard
Well said…
If she can’t encourage you in doing what you want (Even if you help her) you’re in for not a nice ride.
Doc knows my relationship stories…After being close to walking down the Isle once (like real close) I like to trade them like cars now.
Every couple of years depending on mileage and performance I will end up blah blah…
LOL. I’m joking…
But in all seriousness you’re both need to support and encourage each other, if not it will not be healthy for both of you.
I’m still close with a woman I dated 15 years ago and we still support each other in whatever we do. I think that’s why it still works for us even though we are no longer romantically involved.
When I came up with the idea of making fins, my wife was all for it, it got me out of the wheel chair I had been in for six months or so after pulverizing my heels. Now back on my feet, I am talking about making a hollow board, even though I know I got to do things for the house, she understands that I have to do some woodwork to be truly happy, so as long as I do things for “us” every once in a while, she lets me do my “thing”.
A relationship is a partnership, no question there, having said that, everyone should be married to a wife like mine,
the world would be a much happier place.
Rolly
looks like a general theme is starting to develop.
if you dont have kids then you need to start re-define your relationship with her if there’s any hope for long term happyness.
bottom line is that life is too short and precious to be stuck in a miserable relationship…like others have said, not only should she allow you but she should encourage you to do the things that make you happy…only then will you truly have a soul mate…
in our easy modern society its easy to find people like turbo’s girl…people with the wrong priorities…i wonder if she’s had any deaths in her family or other trajic or near trajic event? doesnt seem like it…
my wife is a workaholic and i kept telling her to ease back and smell the flowers but she kept chargin even with a yound daughter…last year around this time she was driving home from work and rolled her little suv on the highway…could of been killed but thankfully she walked away from it (we also have close realtives battleing cancer including a 15 y/o nephew with lukemia)…that was the event that made her realize just how short life can really be…the following week she put in her resignation at work and now we live and work in the same community with little or no highway driving and lots more spare time and freedom on our hands…her attitude towards life has changed dramatically (its more like mine now) and she’s really enjoying her life…we are a better couple because of it…i’d say turbos girl hasnt had such an event and so her priorities are screwed up…she proly also needs an independent hobby/passion…she cant relate to your passion cuz she doesnt have one of her own…
…life is short, you gotta enjoy the ride.
After four years of repairing boards my wife bought me a Clark/Hitachi planer for Christmas. She then insisted that I get a shop vacuum to keep the mess down. I help out around the house ,keep the yard clean,stay employed and wash the cars on a regular basis and she lets me make surfboards.
It’s all a trade off. I’m happy so I do things to make her happy.
Be happy ,
Go surfing
Ray
just put her in her place bro
show her whos boss
u know and if she cant handle it
chuck her 
then go surfing in the pacific for a year
When I came up with the idea of making fins, my wife was all for it, it got me out of the wheel chair I had been in for six months or so after pulverizing my heels. Now back on my feet, I am talking about making a hollow board, even though I know I got to do things for the house, she understands that I have to do some woodwork to be truly happy, so as long as I do things for “us” every once in a while, she lets me do my “thing”.
A relationship is a partnership, no question there, having said that, everyone should be married to a wife like mine,
the world would be a much happier place.
Rolly
thanks for sharing that Rolly, and I hope you don’t mind me posting this , but I think it may help people realise what you did to yourself better . [No, they didn’t donate $5 to him, unfortunately .That’s just in the photo for a sense of scale ]
This is the stuff they put in Rolly’s feet, to hold it all together after he LITERALLY pulverised them . I have not spoken to Grace yet but from what Rolly says , he scored a gem there . It’s good that she understands.
A [female] friend of mine said an interesting thing to me just yesterday , actually . I think it is relevant to this topic. She said "women are meant to compliment , not compete , with men " . Vice versa too. It’s worth thinking about I guess, because power struggles have ruined many of my friend’s relationships.
Cecil
Perhaps the answer is to take a leaf out of Sooty’s book?
I have a new hero. Sooty is his name.
-doug
…after “romancing” 24 females I’d sleep for 2 days too.
I read this post and I was sure that chip posted it!