Lot’s of valid information here young apprentice.
I’ve had a bit of it all.
My current “girl friend” of over six years, “gets” it. I took her out to body surf in the islands, told her, when she asked, “Oh, you’ll hit bottom, so tuck your head down, and put your arms over your head and face like this… It’s only sand, but still.” Well, she forgot to “tuck and cover,” and broke her nose… She’s been a little freaked out even to try body surfing again… Not that any of that makes any difference to me. What she “gets” is - I love surfing more than most anything, and when it’s good… I know she, my kids, parents, work, what ever… will be there when I’m done surfing, and she knows it is good for me. She encourages me to surf, take surf trips, build boards, etc…
Plus - You need to consider what you want from your own surfing: Do you want to stay out as long as you can/want? Surf where you want? Those are just a couple that immediately come to mind. What if you want to “charge the point,” and she’s not even stoked up on the beach break near by? Good luck with all that.
I had a girlfriend, and my current one use to say the same type of thing, who would get bugged out - Granted this was snow related, but the same thing holds true - and say I “should just be with a hot snowboard chick…” I’d say, as I’ve said about surfing, "Why? So I can feel like I have to worry about what someone else’s trip is, when all I want to do go like I want to go (Fill in you choice of the day: Huck a cliff, tree pow, rocky reef, long hike trespassing access to remote point(Granted - the none participating party my be cool for the hike and stuff.)
Anyway - If a good old long board didn’t work, don’t bother unless you want the board for yourself. It’s a balancing act - and from you end, you have to decide what you feel like you can concede for the sake of the relationship. To be sure, surf time is a very, very precious commodity.
As I over heard in the water 20 years ago in Newport CA, @ 36th St… Dawn patrol. I was married at the time.
Guy one, “Where’s so and so? I never see him around anymore.”
Guy two, “When I called him this morning he said he was going out to breakfast with some hot chick he picked up last night.”
Guy one, “Yeah - That’s the problem with hooking up like that, then you gotta be all social and take 'em out for breakfast and stuff. Once you get married you don’t have to worry about all that shit, you can just get up and go surfing.”
Guy two, “Yeah, that’s what’s been great about getting married - I may not get laid as much, but I surf more than ever…”
Me thinking, " Ha! I hear that…"