I know you might not see this since if you did you wouldn’t have said it but “Sorry. THIS IS MY SURFBOARD!!!” seems pretty rude to me. Mike Paler is Swaylock and the Big Sur campout is an annual thing. He even says “for display purposes only” meaning noone’s going to ride it. I think he was polite as possible. He complimented you on your board. Was offering to show off your work to the Swaylocks crew in person on his “dime.”
If you really have a problem with it you could have been polite and just said “I’m not comfortable in loaning out my board to someone I don’t know. Thanks for the offer though!” or maybe “I could only think about displaying my board at the event if I was there in person and unfortunatley I do not have the money to spend on airfare at this time. Thanks for the offer.” (Leaving the offer to possibly fly you with your board out up to him to offer.)
Does it really put you out to be polite back even if you thought his request was unreasonable?
John didn’t even break his cool after your comment. Just replied with another polite post.
I also think your emphasis on “WITH” and “YOUR” were unnecessary and sound rude as well.
In my opinion, if you see something that bugs you, a private message, a post, a claim about how great someone’s design is, just ignore it. Just blow them off like John did to you. Here you are stewing at some imagined slight and he’s probably already forgotten all about it.
In CarveNalu’s case, personally I really hate it when people I don’t know call me bro/brah cause I just know they are going to follow it up with some kind of imposition. I agree that the guy who PM’d him should have worded his message differently and the fact that he went back and reread his post and saw nothing wrong just goes to show his character/upbringing.
However, was it really worth all the crap that followed? Wouldn’t ignoring the request because it was not polite enough have saved everyone a lot of drama? It really wasn’t even an argument worth venting to the public since neither one of you could be the bigger man and the argument wasn’t even interesting.
A little politeness goes a long way.
To everyone:
All the “my design is better than your design,” or “I’ve been doing this for 50 years, you’re a kook,” or “that will never work,” or “20 noobs came down to MY spot today”… God, get over yourselves already. Who do you think you are impressing? I see that crap and a little mental check goes against that person in my head and my eyes start to gradually just skip past their posts. If you really want to warn people off what you know to be a bad idea you could say “I tried this 10/20/30 years ago and we didn’t have very good results,” or “I think you might have problems with this aspect of your design (then explain).”
I used to think surfers were laid back (usually potheads or at least the ones I knew), happy go lucky guys. My opinion has definatley changed. If your mission is to scare off new surfers, put down other designers while pimping your own product (while embarassing yourself to onlookers), and generally make asses of yourselves mission accomplished
To me Swaylocks isn’t about pimping product, flaming other’s to enlarge your E-peen, or all the other stuff that just brings everyone down.
It’s about “Build it, surf it, take pictures, post about it here.”
At least, that’s why I come here.